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So, boys are sort of impulsive and like their toys and such and often we look at a situation that is slightly different than the parameters of what we planned and go "oh it will be fine" and accept it because of some idealized picture of things we have in our head. The reality is basically always different than what we envisioned.
Maybe try to focus on the price differential, do some of the math and figure out what that will come out to in terms of monthly expenses and produce an argument that alternates between "remember that time you just had to have that thing right that instant...? Well with this house, you wouldn't have gotten it" and "well in the price difference per month, after 3 months, that's a trip to... and for the same money we could have instead...".
My suspicion is, and I'm a random person speaking about random men, I don't know you or the situation, so your mileage likely will vary, but when you break down the costs of what that "oh it will be fine" means on a monthly basis, then he probably will have whatever idealized vision of the way things would be in his head fizzle out, and you'll be back to the price ceiling.
Try starting with "well, I dunno, I was thinking about it and we don't really need a three car garage, we could get by just fine on two, but, the price...", because that's probably what he is thinking.
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Date: 2019-07-11 04:51 pm (UTC)So, boys are sort of impulsive and like their toys and such and often we look at a situation that is slightly different than the parameters of what we planned and go "oh it will be fine" and accept it because of some idealized picture of things we have in our head. The reality is basically always different than what we envisioned.
Maybe try to focus on the price differential, do some of the math and figure out what that will come out to in terms of monthly expenses and produce an argument that alternates between "remember that time you just had to have that thing right that instant...? Well with this house, you wouldn't have gotten it" and "well in the price difference per month, after 3 months, that's a trip to... and for the same money we could have instead...".
My suspicion is, and I'm a random person speaking about random men, I don't know you or the situation, so your mileage likely will vary, but when you break down the costs of what that "oh it will be fine" means on a monthly basis, then he probably will have whatever idealized vision of the way things would be in his head fizzle out, and you'll be back to the price ceiling.
Try starting with "well, I dunno, I was thinking about it and we don't really need a three car garage, we could get by just fine on two, but, the price...", because that's probably what he is thinking.
best of luck.