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Owning a home
May. 20th, 2019 06:38 pmSo there's a life situation where one partner says hey! We should do X! and the other partner says hey! Good idea! Let's talk details!
It's all in the details.
After prolonged negotiations we're agreed on a new roof--not new shingles, you understand, a whole new roof, which will be taller than before so that we can slope down over a greater amount of space, thereby creating additional "living space" outdoors. To wit, a lovely 10x10 concrete patio in front that will be covered by said higher roof. I'm very good with this.
We stalled out on what to do with the back yard. Well, not STALLED but, well, not in accord. He wants a roofed enclosure that will block my ability to see the sky from the kitchen window. Not acceptable. I want a gazebo with a retractable shade cover that will...well, I can't remember what he didn't like but it, too, is not acceptable. So there's that. Fortunately we agreed to not take a step that we are not both fully committed to.
In other words, ugh.
They should pull the permits next week. A week or so after, construction. Three weeks of that. Then the inevitable aftermath: cleaning up the incidental plant damage, painting the house a new clean primer white, agreeing on paint colors for the house, figuring out things we fundamentally disagree on, the usual.
In other words UGH!!
It's all good. I have my head playing constant affirmations: We can afford this. These are changes I like. (They are, actually.)
It wasn't what I wanted to do in June but it's okay.
It's all in the details.
After prolonged negotiations we're agreed on a new roof--not new shingles, you understand, a whole new roof, which will be taller than before so that we can slope down over a greater amount of space, thereby creating additional "living space" outdoors. To wit, a lovely 10x10 concrete patio in front that will be covered by said higher roof. I'm very good with this.
We stalled out on what to do with the back yard. Well, not STALLED but, well, not in accord. He wants a roofed enclosure that will block my ability to see the sky from the kitchen window. Not acceptable. I want a gazebo with a retractable shade cover that will...well, I can't remember what he didn't like but it, too, is not acceptable. So there's that. Fortunately we agreed to not take a step that we are not both fully committed to.
In other words, ugh.
They should pull the permits next week. A week or so after, construction. Three weeks of that. Then the inevitable aftermath: cleaning up the incidental plant damage, painting the house a new clean primer white, agreeing on paint colors for the house, figuring out things we fundamentally disagree on, the usual.
In other words UGH!!
It's all good. I have my head playing constant affirmations: We can afford this. These are changes I like. (They are, actually.)
It wasn't what I wanted to do in June but it's okay.
